So I had lunch with a female technician who happens to be Chinese and slightly older, mother of one. She is in her late forties, but as a very youthful appearance and could easily pass for late 30's or early 40's. She has, I think, taken a liking to me and decided to give me some pearls of wisdom regarding boys today.
The conversation went like this...
Me: Yeah, today, there are no guarantees with marriages.
Ling: Well, you needn't be so pessimistic!
Me (shaking my head sadly): People change, you can never tell what will happen in the future.
Ling: That's true. But let me tell you and remember this carefully. Whoever you choose, make sure the guy treats his parents well. Make sure he's nice and kind to his parents. If a guy can't even be nice to his own parents, how do you expect him to treat you well? Sooner or later, the "real" side to him is going to come out.
Me: Really? Hmm...interesting. I will have to keep that in mind.
Ling: Oh yes, and remember, the first year together will be the hardest (she meant after marriage). That first year is the critical year of adjustment. It was so so difficult for me, so difficult for two different people to conform to each other and become a harmonious pair. So just remember, once you get past the first year, then you can hope for some smooth sailing.
Me: Yeah my mom says that I have to find a guy who is willing to do all the housework. Someone who is not afraid of hard work.
Ling: Impossible! No such thing. Nobody, but nobody will be willing to do that these days.
Me (nodding emphatically): Exactly, that's what I'm saying!
5 comments:
She's assuming the couple don't live together before getting married? adjustment should be made before the marriage. if tht doesn't work, don't get married!
Yeah and you don't want a Mama's Boy either. That would mean that you're gonna be in a constant tug of war.
Wendy - not everyone necessarily has that option of living together before marriage. I know that for my parents, I'll have to practically risk disownment. Don't know if it's worth the trouble.
read this
http://www.weneedafence.com/default.asp
Do you still think my idea is outrageous?
Building a fence is different from throwing them in jail. Who do you think support the people in jail? Btw, this is completely irrelevant to my post!!
I have nothing to say about this post.
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