Talking your way to genuine connections

Increasingly, I'm starting to realize the true importance of good communication skills. In fact, it may well be my new religion. I really believe that it is a fine art to be able to express what you wish to express to another person and have the idea arrive safely and intact to that person's comprehension without tacking on extra baggage. More succinctly, how do you get your point across without the other person taking it the wrong way?

I don't think I have ever given this idea very careful thought until recently, nor did I properly respect the awesome potential that lies in good, effective communication. Truly, its powers should not be undermined.

On that note, I believe that emotionally delivered communication are ineffective at best, harmful at worst. You have to temper your emotion and harness it, use it to deliver a point more forcefully, but be sure to never overdo it. I've noticed that at my most emotional, my communication ability essentially implodes on itself and brawls, fistfights, and kapows generally follow (in the verbal sense of course). It is important to distance yourself from the emotional element in order to effectively communicate your thoughts and feelings, as well as receive the message others are trying to send to you.

Now I realize of course that emotion is a part of the human essence and can not be exorcised like demons. But I have no patience for people who don't bother controlling their emotions, on a daily basis. Yes, it's okay to cry at funerals, that doesn't make you an overly emotional sap. But it's not okay to fly out in a rage at the people close to you on a daily basis because you're just an "emotional" person. Get a grip seriously, for both your own sanity and others around you. (and no, I'm not referring to anyone in particular, this is just an example)

As for me, I think I used to be the type of person who doesn't bother to communicate her feelings to others if it takes too much trouble. I would just retreat into my own little world and emerge again when I am alright again. I think part of my admittedly slow human development process is that, I am starting to take a different tack now. I am literally a different person than I was 10 years ago even. I am more assertive. I would speak up now. I don't know if I have mastered the ability to always calmly and effectively express my feelings to others, that is my personal mount olympic to conquer perhaps. But at least, I have isolated a singular goal to work towards. And in the end, at least I can count that as a measure of progress in better communication skills.